Have you ever felt energised by another person? Or drained by someone’s negative energy? (We’ve all been there, right?)
Some people just drain you of all physical, mental and emotional energy. Other people can light your fire, warm you and lift your energy. These people are radiators.
How to protect yourself from another person’s negative energy
It’s good to spend time with energy radiators who give you the energy you need. You don’t want to only be around people who see you as incapable because of your diagnosis and health challenges. You also don’t want to be with people who butt in as soon as you talk about something you’re struggling with – because either they feel their situation is worse, or they don’t want to hear how you’re feeling, because it’s too difficult for them to listen to.
However, we can’t always just avoid people who are drains – especially when they’re permanent fixtures in our lives!
When you have to be in the presence of an energy draining person, try this exercise:
Imagine you are surrounded by a sphere of amber light
Imagine it’s all around you and protects you like a shield.
Keep picturing the shield of light all the time you are with this draining person. Imagine the energy from your shield boosts their energy, but doesn’t deplete your energy at all.
How to increase your positive energy
Nurture your empowering relationships
It’s easy to feel drained after giving out so much of our energy to everything and everyone around us. Having empowering relationships in our lives is essential for feeling good about ourselves and getting an energy boost, especially when we’re dealing with chronic health challenges. You don’t need lots of friends, but a few good ones are invaluable. A good friend can lift you up and restore your energy just by checking in – whether that’s in person or over Zoom.
Be a positive energy radiator for others
You’ll have low days where you need to benefit from someone else’s energy, and that’s okay. But make sure you can give the people in your life your energy, time and attention when they need it. Try focusing on finding new ways to connect, and new ways to make others feel special, loved and supported. When you put your positive energy out into the world, it will come back to you just when you need it most.